Primary Relationship

Inquiry requesting insight into her primary relationship. She is a recovered alcoholic.

This relationship registers one or two dimensions into focus.

Life is experienced on the basis of where the consciousness is focused and in this relationship, the reality of being in the world without registration of Source underlying ALL things, operates. There is a greater Being within which all aspects reside. We read that this understanding is missing here [in the relationship].

You have known this connection within synchronicity of Being where you surrendered your control to its greater wisdom. Life took you into a journey where you SAW what was being shown to you and why it was reflected. Where you operated in this experience worked out much of your hurt and anger about “who you are” and how you were dishonoured and unrecognized. Turning yourself inside out,you discovered you and recognized, honoured and felt yourself. You have this realization consciously and knew it in your “on your own” stage.

You have moved into a new stage. You are learning the art of realizing yourself in close physical, emotional and mental relationship within “family”. Your idea of family needs research for you can only see family through what you experienced and how you experienced it. What you have “before” you called family is a replica of your template which you created as a child, in reaction to your needs being unknown and unmet. The idea of mother and father is in your face, not the truth of what is real human communion.

You have the resources within yourself to restructure your mind. Your thinking is in reaction to your old ideas and experiences. your partner, without having a conscious reflection capacity operating, is responding to your family template. Your worry is not real; it is your anxiety held from your experience of mothering, which was not mothering as it was controlling and fear-full.

Your intelligence is incredible, as you know. Apply it to what you call family and dissolve the old ideas and the congruency of emotional fear that holds these ideas in place. Become conscious when your instinct arises. your partner is mirroring your perceptions of mother/father husband/wife. He is not operating as a full human being in that he is reactive, not responsive.

You had perceptions of your father acting independently, “on his own” and even “in defiance of” your mother. Look at your partner and how he fulfills this perception. You need to neutralize the perception so NO charge is held as mother/father husband/wife relationship. It is your charge that organizes the reality you are experiencing and hating. Your mother hated her experience, too.

Re-examine your ideas. Research what is functional and true as “family”. Neutralize your reactivity within family. You did this when you healed your pain in the centre of your life’s rejection called alcoholism. You can find the way through this one.

A key is to recognize the higher power you ARE and follow the way IN LOVE that unfolds. Your fear is of that which you called Love. Love you have not realized within family (beyond child) YET.

You made a decision to heal before. You make the decision to heal family through your part and surrender into this process. Your partner is a perfect mirror for your charged patterns for he has not yet activated his own LIVING TEMPLATE IN LIFE AS Being “who he is”.